A roadmap for threesome sex

Ben Esra telefonda seni boşaltmamı ister misin?
Telefon Numaram: 00237 8000 92 32

A roadmap for threesome sexThis is for people who wish to consider adding MFM/FMF sexual pleasures to their sensual life. I take for granted that the reader has already decided to open himself/herself to the pursuit of threesome adventures. I sincerely hope these thoughts will benefit you as you plan ways of bringing about one or more FMF or MFM threesome experiences for your pleasure and for the pleasure of the woman/man in your life as well. By the way, it is not my desire to “win converts” to my chosen lifestyle. Rather, it is my hope that readers will open their minds and relationships to the special pleasures and possibilities that threesomes provide. First… I suggest that you let your primary female/male partner know that you are open to… or wish to pursue… the addition of one or more people to your shared “recreational sex” experiences. Start having conversations about the distinction between sex for love… sex for recreation… and sex for procreation. Let her/him see X-rated videos or read books or magazines which spotlight the pleasures of multiple-partner recreational sex.I know that initially… that could send shock waves through some spouses or girlfriends/boyfriends. But, be open and honest with your feelings. Let him/her know the kind of fantasies that stimulate you (her and another girl focusing on your pleasure, another guy and you focusing on her pleasure, you giving simultaneous pleasure to her and another girl, you alone with another girl, her alone with another guy, you and her with more than one other person, etc.).Chances are he/she will not quickly jump at the idea of inviting others into your sex life. Most people equate great sexual fulfillment and the warmth of sexual sharing with emotions aking to love. That is why most women never allow themselves to enjoy more than one man at a time… and miss out on the wonderful expansive possibilities of enhanced, multiplied pleasures. Most men and women who do allow themselves to try a few threesomes find that their sex lives are greatly improved… and that their personal levels of sexual fulfillment is greatly elevated!Be patient. Go slow. Ask her/him what she/he thinks of such “recreational sex” experiences. You need to open her/his mind to such ideas gently! Share in watching X-rated movies, which include scenes, which reflect what is on your mind. Share in reading stories, afyon escort which reflect what is on your mind. When you see such films or read such stories, let her/him know that they turn you on…watch to see her/his reactions. Let these thoughts soak in over as along a period of time as is needed. Try to extract a promise that “try” means at least a few such experiences… just in case the first one or two are less than satisfactory. Once you have gained her/his agreement to try such extra-partner-sex situations… you need to watch her/his responses in the days ahead. Is she/he really enthusiastic about the new possibilities ahead… or is she/he now reflecting some second thoughts or potential jealousy… or fear of jealousy by you. You may want to talk further about how you will both deal with any potential jealousy that may surface further down the line. You may also wish to make it clear how each of you will communicate with the other about limitations either of you want to impose on your expanded sex life as things develop.You will want to always keep in mind that the anticipated new experiences you are about to have should be shared experiences… shared between you and your wife/husband, or you and the primary woman/man in your life. Early on, you will want to determine which of you will identify the potential additional person or people you will invite into your sex life. Will she or he bring the extra person or people into your shared bed… or will you be the one to identify that person and create the setting to bring that person into your shared sex life.Maybe you will want to sharein creating a “prospect list” or in determining a method of identifying a prospective extra person (or persons)… or characteristics desired in that extra person (tall, short, younger, older, married, single, certain physical characteristics, local, non-local, friend, stranger, etc.). Or, she/he may ask you who you think you would enjoy inviting to join in your expanded sex life. You may even want to start with some couple-couple action first, so you can both gain a higher level of comfort in the earliestexperiences… and so you can make some initial contacts with others who have opened their sex lives.A large part of the fun of MFM and FMF threesomes is the anticipation… the planning… the fantasizing about it in advance with your primary afyon escort bayan partner. I know people who have not actually experienced their first threesome until long after having decided that they would do it… enjoying with their mates the prolonged anticipation and knowledge that “one day” it would actually happen. However, remember that you can fantasize too much. Either or both of you can build expectations too high. Sometimes it is necessary to postpone that actual first experience due to need for privacy, discretion and anonymity. It may require that you place ads or follow-up ads… or that you travel to another city. It may require the both of you… or you or her/him alone… doing some initial “interviews,” to enhance your shared “comfort level” with a prospective new guy or girl. Even if you choose someone who is a close friend of one or both of you, it may take some time setting up the right situation (a shared date, a special dinner, an over-night stay together someplace, etc.) where things can warm up properly.Also, think about whether you seek one-time, temporary or long-term additional partners. I know that the permanent three-way partnership is very rare. Some people will want to establish a long-term three-way relationship. The more typical threesome scene is the two-way “primary” partnerships with an occasional third person joining in just for the fun of it. However, there are some couples who open themselves to an extra guy or girl in their sex life only on the premise that the extra person is also a friend of one or both of them. Those couples have restricted their threesome ventures to one, two or three such friends and would not consider inviting a “stranger” into their bed. When a close friend is chosen… and it works out… such relationships can often continue for years. As a matter of fact, they usually continue indefinitely, unless one of the parties proves to be a jerk, or unless circumstances change for one or more of the parties.Other times, couples absolutely refuse to consider inviting into their beds anyone who either she or her guy know or are related to. Everyone is different. Everyone has different circumstances. When a stranger is chosen, it can be a “one-night affair,” or it could turn into an oft-repeated pleasure for all. Sometimes couples start by intending things to be temporary or escort afyon one-time events… only to find that they have developed a new kind of friendship that they all wish to periodically repeatover a long-term period.Once a couple has decided to open themselves to the addition of one or more occasional “playmates,” there are a couple of basic things that must happen. You must deal with “the jealousy factor” before it comes up. Remember to jointly decide on any limitations you mutually agree to impose on your proposed threesome. Decide on the way to meet a third person to join you in a threesome. By now you have probably agreed that you want to focus on inviting a friend or acquaintance to join you… or you may have decided that you do not want to involve someone you already know. Have a plan as to where you would prefer meeting this third person for your first encounter. At your place? Generally not a good idea. Motels are good. Motels that offer hot tubs are even better (as a way to cut the ice). Adult motels are often the best.Make plans to do it soon! Remember, you can fantasize too much. Either or both of you can build expectations too high. Remember also that the sex you have between the two of you is likely to be better than sex with the first few extra people… just because you know each other better, and there is less chance of anxiety getting in the way. You may get a guy who “gets off” and wants to leave…without really giving pleasure to your wife. That can be the pits! Or, you may get a girl who “freezes up” just as the fun begins. It may take a few threesome experiences before you locate extra partners who truly melt into your shared lovemaking wishes.Assuming the threesome went even moderately well… you should both genuinely thank the third person, and embrace them before they leave. You may want to try it again with this person. They should leave with a feeling of “warm fuzzies.”Finally, after each threesome experience, the two of you must spend some time re-living the experience with each other… what it felt like… how you would each like it to be different or similar next time… how you each appreciate and love the other for helping to make the threesome possible. Be sure to give your girlfriend or boyfriend extra tender loving after your threesome experiences. You might even want to each write down your thoughts on each of those early threesome experiences and share them with someone (like me), just so you can express yourself fully… and so you can remember later how those initial experiences went.Be a giver! If you do, you’ll get your rewards.Good luck!

Ben Esra telefonda seni boşaltmamı ister misin?
Telefon Numaram: 00237 8000 92 32